Girl Crush

Do you have one?

I am a woman in my 30s and I have been single for about 3 years now. I don’t have time to be in a relationship because of work and of course, because of this pandemic. I am not open to dating apps such as Bumble or Tinder; I prefer the old fashioned way – meeting in person, or through a friend.

So what else can I do now but to admire someone at work? Having to find someone in the office is hard because I don’t find anybody attractive except for this one lady. Yes, she’s a woman ; she is in her 30s too. A very strong and smart person handling her own team and we are friends. She doesn’t know that I like like her. I’ve been hiding this fondness when I was still seeing someone way back 2017. I never acted on it because she’s in a heterosexual relationship and I’m sure she’s very much in love. I’m just here for her as a friend and it’s so hard you know? Being there and seeing her happy or in pain. We have been exchanging flirty banters and I like it. I’m not really sure if those are flirty at all but that’s the closest I can get to being that close to someone like her. She shares her secrets and problems with me and I to her. But since I really like her, I can’t really share a lot about me because I don’t want to be exposed. I don’t want to lose her and her friendship.

Recently we had dinner and she brought up this relationship topic and all I could tell her was ‘I DONT HAVE TIME FOR THAT’. I can’t, even though I really wanted to tell her that ‘It’s you; it’s so hard because I can’t have you’. I’m avoiding the topic because I can’t tell her. No puedo.

I already know the answer to my question and I’m sure I’m in denial. I’m in so deep and I can never have her.

What are your thoughts? Do I tell her?